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When Someone Is Labeled
As Being Too Smart
Socially Awkward
Situations When People Feel Talked Down To
When Someone Feels Talked Down To:
• How
to respond to people saying you make them feel talked down to. A useful &
somewhat humorous inquiry. Researching how some people try to bring down others
for being too intelligent.
• People
want to connect and not feel talked down to.
• Intelligent
or not, being perceived as arrogant is also unpleasant.
• People
interpret things the way they want. Two
people in the same situation might be excited and the other feel talked down
to. It is awkward to tell a person who feels trodden upon that they are the one
who chooses to feel inferior is something only in their head.
• How
do you handle these issues? Here are equalization methods that might work. Keep
a sense of humor as you read on.
Strategies: How Not To Make People Feel Inferior
• Calm
down.
• Speak
more slowly.
• Show
you listen: People with fast mental processing skills are often deemed as non-listeners. So repeat back what others said to show you
really listen.
• Give
more credit to others in group projects even if they did less than you.
• Love:
Show you like people. Find it in
yourself to like people.
• Be
kind and trustworthy. Let others see you as one they can count on, instead of
being one to fear.
• Flattery: Give other people kudos. Don’t over do it.
• Simplify
things so others better understand.
• Recognize When Others Are Upset: Spot body language cues like
glazed eyes, glancing at the watch or picking at fluff on clothing.
• Frame your opinions of
others in positive or neutral ways. E.G. instead of saying "John is a bad
customer service agent," say, "I've noticed that Carmen seems to
struggle to connect with people in customer service."
• Humor:
non sarcastic humor. Silly humor deflects stress. Even put yourself down a
notch showing your human like others.
Bring Yourself Down A Notch.
Use To
Help Equalize Things. May however backfire if others are the type to use this
against you:
• Showing vulnerability in public is actually a sign of strength
• Laugh at yourself when you make a mistake
• Put Yourself Down: A tricky thing
that often backfires. “I don’t know how
to get more done and increase profits in a shorter time period without
sometimes upsetting you.”
• Dumbing down often works.
Many people unconsciously turn off their brains to better conform to others to
avoid being labeled a derogatory term related to superior or genius. Sadly,
women in male dominated societies often dumb themselves down.
Useful Quotes For The Equalizer Effect:
• “You’re right.”
• “I admire you in _____. I
can learn a lot from you in that area.”
• “I love learning from
you.”
• “You are so clearly gifted
in that area.”
• “I’m proud of you. That
takes an incredible amount of forethought, etc.”
• “You handled that
incredibly well.”
• “What do you think?”
Famous Quotes On Superiority:
• “Every man takes the
limits of his own field of vision for the limits of the world.” Arthur
Schopenhauer
• “No one can make you feel
inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt
When Others Just Don’t Get It & You Have Only Five Minutes
Left:
Frustration
fuels the flames. It’s easier to bridge matters when there’s time to afford
patience. Consider these difficult possibilities:
• Have a
good person take charge of the situation.
• Resume
the subject when nerves have calmed down. People listen better when not angry.
• This
is very important. You may not solve the
world’s problems but the writers here aren’t smart enough to have figured this
one out. Even little bits will help. What have you found to work?
Researching Perceived Arrogance.
Further research in this field is
much needed. Web search the below topics. Useful terms and phenomena:
Psychological Traits:
What Might Be Ascribed To Those
Who Consider Themselves As Feeling Superior (real or imagined):
Boasting, intolerance of
criticism, egocentrism, egotism, and lacking empathy. Also exaggerated
entitlement, envy, grandiosity and narcissistic. Perfectionism, micro managing in the sense
that those being micromanaged can feel looked down upon. Also self-esteem
self-righteousness and superiority complex, and vanity.
Being Talked Down To - Common
Phrases: How
those being talked down describe the awkward situation:
• Talk
to me, not down to me.
• You’re
conceited.
• Terms
like: arrogant, you feel inferior, or you are talking
down to me. Belittling. • You’re not respecting me. Feels like you are
very condescending.
• You think you’re better than
me.
• I don’t like the way you talk
down to me.
Search Terms:
• (superior OR inferior) AND ("dumbing
down" OR "dumb down") AND
(“inferiority complex” OR “feel inferior” OR “treated as inferior” OR
“superiority complex” OR arrogant OR conceited OR “talk down to” OR “too
intelligent” OR “feel smarter” AND inferior OR “feel better” OR equalizer OR
“level playing field” OR “make equal” OR psychology OR fear OR lift OR
"stop making people feel inferior" OR “feel stupid" OR jealous)
AND (“feel better” OR quotes OR “them feel smarter” OR alleviate OR “call me
superior” OR “me arrogant” OR “me conceited”) AND (quotation OR quotations OR
phrases OR “tell them” OR say OR “sound bytes”)
• What not to search: –A.I.
-“artificial intelligence” -“no one” -consent
Tentative Conclusions On Creating More Harmony:
Best Known Website For People
Perceived As Too Intelligent Or Too Creative:
Website for creative minds adapting
to a less than creative world. The site
is about how to balance “being too creative for others” with adapting to the
local mindset. www.MagicalGenius.Org
Join Creative Philosophers Club, part of Mensa in Solano County 707 427-6443.
Kindly share your ideas with the free group, or post constructive suggestions
on this blog.
Love Is The Answer: Superiority is
after all a mind construct. While people have different skills, everyone has
something to teach us. Difficult questions usually can be found through
compassion. A genius without compassion is missing out from the magical side of
life. After all is said and done, love is the answer.
